I remembered I joined the interview session of INTI's Community Service Camp, and I got rejected at the 2nd phase. I am surprised and had strong curiosity to find out why I am rejected from the camp, so I approached to management team of the event. I requested a reply for them but they failed to reply me as they mentioned that it is their rules and regulations, so they are unable to tell me. I am frustrated with the act and told them ''I don't mind meeting all of you, if you (head) don't have the time to tell me, I just want to find out why". I had this strong burning desire to know why I am rejected when I passionately told one of them that I have something to achieve in that camp, a position. I've been keeping this so-called secret for 2 years. Frankly speaking, I am really disappointed of that fixed-minded-rules-and-regulations and frustrated that they didn't tell me the main reasons, when I am willing to change so that I am able to join the next recruitment.
All I wanted to say is, yes. I am frustrated at first, but now I understand that point. Someone told me, I am rejected because of I am over-confidence. I asked why, he/she did not reply, stated that it is a secret. Is okay. I got it now. I accept the critics given from you all, and I forgive you guys although never reveal the main issues to me by yourself. I just hope that it doesn't happen again, and I guess it will never happen again, people nowadays get rejected and let it be, never try to find out why. I am struggling finding out why Over-Confidence is a negative point for me. Isn't that a good thing for someone to be confident? Is really unacceptable at the years. But thank you, Lord, leading me through this void.
While there are many reasons for failure, here are five of the most common ones and there is a point which I want to share regarding this whole essay. Now, I am going to explain why being Over-Confident is a negative thing. I've seen some passionate freshmen joined events, striving their very best in order to achieve something really WOW the public. Being confident is good, but not Over-Confidence.I am not someone really experienced in events, not someone really great, not a well-known person but I shared a point with someone I really hope that he/she would make a series of revolution by being a humble and benevolence leader and I think it not gonna happen as his/her demonic side is overpowering his/her real self. I joined a discipleship lessons few days ago and surprisingly found the answer I wish to know for since 2 years ago. Now remember the lesson of the whale --- just when you get to the top and start to blow, you get harpooned! I am being spiritual here because it stated clearly and true, Proverb 16:18 says, "Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall." Paul also wrote, "So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall!" (1 Corinthians 10:12).
Sometimes we act as though we have "arrived" when deep down we know we are far from it. Part of our problem is the fear of looking like a fool, of being humiliated. An article in a Chicago newspaper reported that the most frequently shoplifted item in America's drugstores is Preparation H, a cream for people suffering with hemorrhoids. Apparently, many are embarrassed to admit thhey have that physical problem, so they prefer to steal the cream rather than face humiliation at the checkout line. This is pride.
I believe very few people will truly understand this 2 paragraphs, this is because you never learn with empty bottle. I would like to congratulate those who understand them. Before sharing the other 4 reasons, I would like to say that there are a lot of people refuse to admit that they are proud, you may know that they aren't proud from words, but let me teach you how to see. Their behaviors are mostly similar as I've been through that stage. They refuse to listen to others' advice, overpowering the entire situation, thinking that they are very great in handling problems, see things based on the cover, their usage of words are mostly ''I & Me".
God is a planner. He sets things in motion based on His infinite foresight and wisdom. We also need to plan ahead. Remember, Noah began building the ark long before it started to rain. The old saying - that if you fail to plan then you are planning to fail - holds true. Proverbs 27:12 reminds us of the same truth, "A sensible man watches for problems ahead and prepares to meet them" (The Living Bible). If you and I do not have a plan for our lives, somebody else will. If we are unwilling to make decisions, somebody will make decisions for us. For this reason, I believe many people will truly said that "Cheh, I know la" Yes, you know, do you ever apply? Once, I am same like those people outside, people like you thinking that experienced people very annoying as they keep point out the problems, we need to thank them actually because they see what others don't see, giving us a chance to know that there will be holes ahead, aren't we need to be thankful to them? I backstabbed these people, saying their bad things behind, but now I feel thankful, Thank you guys so much, please forgive me. Take every single advice seriously and try to look further, this is not being negative but being realistic enough to face problems as a grown-up, because we fall before.
We will talk about fear. The fear of failure can also cause failure. When we worry about what others will think of us if we fail, we may not even attempt to do something challenging. Proverbs 29:25 says, "Fear of man will prove to be a snare." One way I have encouraged myself to try new things is to tell myself that I am allowed to make one mistake a week - as long as it is not the same mistake over and over! This is actually linked with the other reasons stated. Just recall, there are people around us are experienced enough to share things with us, but minority of them actually gave a lot of advice but unable to make a breakthrough, it isn't that they are not able to breakthrough is just that they are afraid, we shall not blame them, but encourage them, by taking their advice, and plan to face all the circumstances ahead yet help them to build up their self-esteem. I am so sorry again that I actually blamed someone for being such negatives, influenced me to be as negative as him/her, because I also never see things clearly, never know whose bitter roots acting as their bondage. I truly understand that non-stop failures lead to depressions and negative thinking, so come on my friend, if you are a realistic person, just think that Albert Einstein failed how many times to be success before, I am giving this example because I afraid you give an excuse for yourself that I am being too not realistic. And if you are someone not-realistic, just imagine that the diamonds are just right in front of you, you might dig very hard, and faced a lot of barriers, why give up? Just one more metre and you will reach the diamonds.
Often, victory is nearby, but we give up too soon. The prophet Daniel tells of a time when he prayed for days and days without getting an answer to his petition. Then one day, in a vision, he saw a mighty angel who told him, "Since the first day that you set your mind to gain understanding and to humble yourself before your God, your words were heard, and I have come in response to them" (Daniel 10:12). Although God had heard Daniel's prayer and had dispatched an angel immediately, the angel was delayed twenty-one days due o a great spiritual battle. What would have happened if Daniel had stopped praying on the tenth day, or the fifteenth day or the twentieth day? These aren't just stories and spiritual things, but truly able to relate to our daily life. I wasn't a spiritual person before, thinking everything could go smoothly and under-control just by myself, but at the end I messed up everything, yes things look good in front that's why you never think that I faced these problems. This is like the diamond story I shared above, and there's a recommendation, a book named "Acres of Diamonds'' will truly help you to gain further understanding regarding this topic.
Last but not least, another reason for failure is ignoring God's Advice. The Bible is the owner's manual for human beings. It contains operating instructions and guidelines for work, home, finances, relationships, and health. It has the best advice in the world. When we consistently and stubbornly fail to follow God's directions, we will suffer negative consequences. Proverbs 14:12 says, "There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death." We may try hard to be a success, but we sabotage our own efforts by not doing things God's way.. Remember what James wrote, "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all" (James 1:5). Trust me, it really works. I was once a free thinker like most of young people nowadays, but it is true, ask God and He will gives.
The main objectives I typed all these are not to share how spiritual I am, how great I could be, but to educate and share some thoughts which I think they may help a lot of people out there, who not just focus in events, and in their studies, or even daily life too.
Good Luck.
